Teenagers appear to be another species. And they show up with no manual (either “operating” or “service”).
Because I Said So!! provides that missing document.This is not a “How-to” book as much as it is a guide todeveloping your family’s own “how-to’s.” Each family has its own set of values, though we have many common values, too.I have no interest in telling you what those values should be. I wish to share with you some of the guidelines I have discovered, observed, stumbled across, and learned the hard way during my work as a camp counselor, kindergarten teacher, teacher of adolescents in a psychiatric hospital, psychologist in a residential facility for children with behavioral, emotional, and mental health problems, school psychologist, and private practice psychologist working with children, teenagers, and families.
What’s the Big Idea?! provides teenagers with similar guidelines, not to parent, but to live and improve their self care. I define “Self Care” as: having a good time; gaining understan
ding on how the way you feel affects the way you act; understanding how the way you feel and act affects others; understanding how the way others feel and act affects you; and getting better at identifying and sharing how you feel with those who care so much about you.
All of us (parents and children) spend a lot of our time, attention, and energy trying to have things the way we want. The two primary sources of power towards having things the way we want:
1) Knowing how good (not “good at”) we are; and
2) Keeping agreements with ourselves and others.
The books share one binding and the same principles; each book promotes the two power sources, supports and encourages the readers to follow these principles and see for themselves.
FREE COPY of the LEADERS' MANUAL: If you purchase 5 or more copies of BECAUSE I SAID SO!!/WHAT'S THE BIG IDEA?! you will receive a free copy of the Leaders' Manual. Simply put 5 or more copies of the book in your basket and we will include your free manual with your order! (If you decide at a later date to purchase 4 or more copies, you will still receive your free Leader's Manual.)
A testimonial from Louis G. Castonguay, Ph.D., Former President of the Society for Psychotherapy Research.
"If you have a teenager, you know one thing is certain: There will be conflict. You also know, intellectually, that there are always two sides to every problematic interaction. Emotionally, however, you know that you are right and it frustrates you that your child cannot see (or admit to) how logical and reasonable your position is. In exactly the same way, your child is certain he/she is in the right and terribly annoyed that you “don’t get it.”
Fortunately, Dr. Neal Hemmelstein provides a wonderful and accessible resource both you and your child can share and work together with in order to understand each other’s perspective and resolve conflicts: Parents’ Guide to Parenting Teenagers: Because I Said So!/ Teenagers’ Guide to the Teenage Years: What’s the Big Idea?!. Dr. Hemmelstein, an experienced, creative, and highly competent therapist, bases both of these books (actually two books in one!) on simple and insightful principles to guide your interactions with your children, as well as to guide your adolescent’s actions and decisions. These principles offer you the means to deal with a wide range of stressful and delicate parenting issues (e.g., the teenager’s bedroom, curfews, video games)."