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This Leader’s Manual provides a guide to my Teenagers’ Guide to the Teenage Years: What’s the Big Idea?! In the introduction to the Teenagers’ Guide I write:
“Think of this book as a guide, similar to a guidebook you might pick up in preparation for a trip to another land. Once you are there, chances are you will do whatever it is you like, but to prepare for the trip, reviewing another’s experience of your destination may help you develop a plan of your own and keep you from making a few (though not many, I’m afraid) of the mistakes the writer of the guidebook made.”
This Leader’s Manual is a guide to a guide. It, as well as the Teenagers’ Guide (and it’s accompanying Parents’ Guide) is based on the following simple, but not terribly easy principles I call “1-2-3.”
1. All of us, all day long, are simply trying to have things the way we want.
2. We have two primary sources of power towards having things the way we want:
1. Knowing how good we are (not simply “good at,” but our true, core goodness)
2. Keeping agreements with ourselves and with others.
3. Notice, Remember, Repeat: What we notice we can remember. What we remember we can repeat. We are all experts at noticing when we “blow it.” We all need work in noticing our own good work (as well as others’ good work). The better we get at noticing our own good work, the more of that good work we can remember. The more of our good work we remember, the deeper our pool of memories (not just our mistakes, but our good work, as well) becomes from which we can choose what to do next.
This Leader’s Manual provides clear, concrete instructions and suggestions to lead a group of high school-aged teenagers through their Teenagers’ Guide. As well, each chapter of this guide includes exercises, discussion points, and illustrative examples regarding the principles in that chapter. This edition also includes a complete copy of the Teenagers’ Guide for reference.
Dr. Neal Hemmelstein’s Leader’s Manual for: Teenagers’ Guide to the Teenage Years- What’s the Big Idea?! provides a rich and powerful two-week curriculum for high school aged (14 – 18 years old) adolescents regarding self-esteem and self-care. He draws upon his many years of experience as a teacher and school psychologist to construct this program.
Dr. Hemmelstein’s Leader’s Manual facilitates its use by a group leader through a well thought out step-by-step set of instructions/suggestions for each chapter (each chapter of the manual corresponds to each chapter of the Teenagers’ Guide). Dr. Hemmelstein provides personal experiences that exemplify the implementation and/or results of not following the principles being discussed in that chapter for two reasons: 1) for the leader to share with the group; and 2) to provide examples/models of such to encourage the leader to draw upon and share her/his own personal experiences.
This Leader’s Manual, as well as the text for each group member, Teenagers’ Guide to the Teenage Years- What’s the Big Idea?! is a refreshing, developmentally attuned, down-to-earth guide; the Leader’s Manual being a guide for the use of a guide. It facilitates a group leader’s process in helping adolescents address the demands and difficulties of “taking good care of oneself” (Dr. Hemmelstein’s identified purpose of the text). It is respectful, to leader and group member alike; it is rich in insight regarding self-care; and it is simple to use.
Barbara Flom, PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified School Counselor and Special Education Teacher --Worked 21 years in PK-12 public schools and adolescent treatment facilities prior to current position as professor in the School Counseling Program at University of Wisconsin, Stout campus